My “currently” and holidays can be hard.

by Elizabeth on November 27, 2013

Currently reading: Do blogs count? Haha. Actually I’m reading What To Expect When You’re Expecting?. surprised? P.S. Has anyone seen the movie? I’m thinking I need to rent it due to the current state of the union.

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Currently eating: Anything and everything!! Roasted veggies make a daily appearance. Snacks have been turkey and string cheese heated in the microwave. I’m too impatient to wait 7 seconds for it to cool so the roof of my mouth is currently burned off? Oh yeah, RUM CAKE! I ate the entire thing, dang it. Before you freak out there’s only a teaspoon of rum in it. Basically you make a vanilla cake with vanilla pudding mix in a bunt pan, heat butter and sugar on the stove and pour it over as a glaze. The texture is to die for. This is the pre-glaze picture.

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My sweet husband snagged this from the office birthday celebration. Please don’t tell anyone he cut the side of the cake off so I could have the maximum amount of frosting. Keeper!

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Currently wanting: A massage! I’ve been doing circuit workouts the past two days because it’s been rainy and cold out. I haven’t done lunges since my Crossfit days (sad, I know) and I am so sore! I also want to try the pralines and cream McFlurry from McD’s. 

Currently feeling: EXCITED! I got all of our Christmas stuff up, food prep has began for Thanksgiving, and my 26th birthday is Saturday! We are also car shopping, that’s fun too.

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Currently missing: My BFF. She moved away last week (right after she also found out she was expecting!) Luckily she isn’t too far away and I will still get to see her often! 

Currently saying:

Not sure I have one…

Currently watching: Our fire and Christmas tree I put up today!

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The holidays are a time filled with anticipation and joy for so many people. Between the family gatherings, seeing friends, parties, food, lights, shopping, etc. there are definitely reasons to celebrate! 

I know for some though, holidays can be hard. Some people have tragic memories and losses around holidays. Some have financial struggles that are burdensome. For others, food, social events, alcohol, and maybe even family can be extremely anxiety provoking. I wanted to just acknowledge that if you are worried about things coming up, you aren’t alone.

I’ve spent the last few (close to 5) years dreading certain parts of November and December, and almost looking forward to January when things go back to normal. Having an eating disorder when so much of what’s being celebrated is centered around food feels like jumping out of an airplane with no parachute. 

I have to admit, this is one of the first holiday seasons in several years I am going into without fears and I am genuinely excited! I’ve really enjoyed experimenting with and eating new recipes this past week. It’s so interesting how when food loses it’s power, so many other things come to life and you are able to be present and really enjoy the moment. Sounds cliche but it’s so true. 

Here are some ways to cope (these are things that I didn’t do in past years, and I feel like it made things so much harder!) :

1. Follow your regular meal plan. Don’t eat less during the day to “save up” for anything. As you and I know, by the time the meal comes around you will be starving. I don’t know about you but I don’t enjoy myself or food as much when I’m past a certain hunger level! Eat regularly. I can promise if you do, when meal time comes around you won’t want to stuff everything you see into your face as fast as humanly possible (maybe you will, but you won’t be so ravenous there are no other options.) If you still choose to do it, I’m ok with that. Just make sure it isn’t motivated by starvation.

2. Remember, it’s not ALL about the food. Sure it’s a big part, but so the the company, the conversation, the memories, and the ambiance. Stop a moment to TAKE IT ALL IN! Find one thing to be grateful for (I’m sure you will be able to find more!) 

3. Take breaks for yourself. I’m a person that needs regular alone time. Even if I just sneak off to a quiet room for 5 minutes it really helps to have a break from overstimulation. 

4. Be kind to yourself. In my case, it’s eating without guilt. It’s having choosing to eat what I like instead of living by rules that I lived by for so long. Somehow, they made me feel safe but it couldn’t have been a bigger illusion. Be kind to yourself in whatever way that looks like for you!

5. Reach out if you need support. Talk to a trusted family member or friend, call or text someone, EMAIL me :) if you just need to talk. Often knowing you aren’t alone and that others feel the same way you do it enough to help! If not, they can probably offer solicited advice! 

Questions:

1. Give me something “currently” in your life!

2. Anyone tried the pralines and cream McFlurry?

3. List some girls’ names you like!! Joe and I are pretty set on a boys name? I need more girl choices though :-)

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1 Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy November 27, 2013 at 8:48 am

I saw the movie and I really liked it!

Have a great Thanksgiving!
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2 Amanda @ .running with spoons. November 27, 2013 at 8:56 am

Currently drooling over all the delicious Thanksgiving eats that have been popping up around the blog world. We celebrated ours in October and it feels like forever ago. Christmas needs to get here soon so I can enjoy another good turkey dinner!
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3 Lindsey November 27, 2013 at 8:58 am

Thank you for the tips as we approach the holidays. I’m not to bad with dealing with the food but i get very anxious if I can’t get my run or workout in.

I like the name Amelie for a girl

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4 Katie @ running4cupcakes November 27, 2013 at 8:59 am

Currently enjoying a caramel skim latte while waiting for my “Friday” to start – and getting ready to pack everyone up for our trip to Florida next week!
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5 Susan November 27, 2013 at 9:07 am

That movie is so funny–and I don’t even have kids. I am currently learning to approach my running & cross training in a new way and I am liking the results! I have not tried the McFlurry but it sounds amazing! I always thought if I did have kids and I had a girl, I would name her Kathryn (and call her Katie). And I love the name Mae.
Thank you for taking us along on your journey! Blessings to you!

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6 D @ The Kosher Cave Girl November 27, 2013 at 9:24 am

Um, I’ve never had a pralines and cream McFlurry, but thank god I can’t have it, because I need to stay far far away from that. Uh, Yum! I’m also definitely a frosting person, so I can appreciate how awesome your husband is!
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7 Tory November 27, 2013 at 9:44 am

I impulse bought the pralines and cream McFlurry last week! I hadn’t actually even heard about it but saw it in the drive through. I enjoyed it, but to me it just tasted like vanilla ice cream with caramel and pecans. But I love those flavors, and if they like giving it a fancy schmancy name more power to them.

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8 Erin November 27, 2013 at 9:53 am

Interesting thought about how other things come alive when food “loses its power.” I’ve been in treatment for almost a year, and over the last couple weeks I’ve come to the same conclusion myself – it is so freeing. Like, there are PEOPLE at holiday parties? Who knew?! I literally have more hours in the day because my brain isn’t tallying what I have eaten and what I can or can’t eat in the future. You’re right, in a removed way, it is interesting to see how your perception and processing literally changes.

Great post, just wanted to let you know. :)

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9 Jojo @ runfasteatlots November 27, 2013 at 9:55 am

I am starting food prep for the big feast! Love cooking the thanksgiving meal, from planning to shopping, cooking, and finally eating!
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10 Kim November 27, 2013 at 10:32 am

I love the last part of this post. For several years (basically up until I met my husband 4 years ago) I dreaded the holiday season. My family situation was off the wall, and the holidays made it even worse with everyone being so happy and spending time with their families. However, it brought my brother, sister, and I closer than I could have ever imagined! Though I still have anxiety about the holidays sometimes, it’s gotten so much better since getting married as we’ve started our own traditions (sorry for the vagueness, haha. I don’t want to be a Debbie downer, but I’m glad you touched on this time of year not always being so great for everyone!).
I just went for a cold 3 mile run with Tyler, and I’m getting ready to do some weights and run to the store for some last minute things!
We were like you two- had the boys name picked out, but the girl’s name was a nightmare. The only one we agreed on was Micheala (my dad and grandpa are named Michael & it’s my brother’s middle name…pronounced McKayla, but I’m sure you know that!). I’ve always loved Skylar (rhymes with Tyler and that bothers me), Julianna, and Madelyn (he thought this was one was okay). I can’t even remember his suggestions, but they were a big fat NO! I LOVE hearing what other people name their children and why :) Have a wonderful day!
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11 Lauren November 27, 2013 at 11:16 am

I love this post! Thank you for the helpful tips for approaching a very stressful season for those of us with the food related anxiety!

And for girls names, how about: Rachel, Molly, Julia, or Caroline?

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12 Rachel @ Undercover Diva: A Sitcom November 27, 2013 at 12:02 pm

I second the Rachel suggestion ;)
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13 Koryn @ High Heels & Healthy Alternatives November 27, 2013 at 11:36 am

I am currently enjoying my birthday (woohoo!!) even though I have to work today!

Haven’t been to McD’s in ages and sadly, I’m not craving sweets in this pregnancy (my first). Guess that old wives’ tale is true… all I crave are salty/savory things and I’m having a boy! Perfect for the holiday though… can’t wait for my turkey dinner. Yum!!!I think you’re having a girl, btw. :)

For girls names, I’ve always liked Madison or Camille.
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14 Alison @ The Fit Chronicles November 27, 2013 at 12:01 pm

I was super entertained by the movie version of What to Expect When You’re Expecting! I even noticed my husband hovering in the other room to pretend like he wasn’t watching…

Girl’s names are tough! I love Natalie, Charlotte, and Lily. :) Happy Thanksgiving!
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15 Michelle Kim November 27, 2013 at 12:04 pm

My friends named their daughter Eliyah. In Hebrew, it means “God is light” (I think). They call her Ellie for short. It’s a beautiful name and she’s currently a happy and healthy 1.5-year-old :)
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16 Nicole November 27, 2013 at 12:06 pm

Currently, I’m taking today off of work and enjoying being at home, bundled in a blanket, getting caught up on my DVR. I also have butter softening on the counter to do some baking later this morning. :)

I haven’t yet tried the Pralines & Cream McFlurry, but it sounds good! I’m currently obsessed with the cones from McD’s.

By the way: A dude that brings you home max frosting is SUCH a winner! Way to go Joe! :)

Girl’s names: Caroline, Veronica, Rose, Laine, Danielle. (Those are my favorites….If I have a girl, I would combine both my Grandmother’s names for a first & middle combo “Veronica Rose”. Anyhooo….. ) Have a happy Turkey Day!!

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17 Ashley @ My Food N Fitness Diaries November 27, 2013 at 12:30 pm

What to Expect When You’re Expecting is a pretty cute movie – you should rent it!

I love this post too – thanks so much for addressing tough times around the holidays. It’s one of those things no one likes to bring up, but it’s there and it happens.

As for girl names… I’m keeping my top favorite secret (in hopes that we have a girl someday!), but I’ve always loved the name Brylee. My niece’s name is Brynlie so we wouldn’t name our daughter that because it’s too similar, but I think it’s so cute! I also love Paisley and Tatum.
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18 Mindy November 27, 2013 at 1:21 pm

I’m currently getting ready for our family weekend in Belgium. We are staying in a castle, which should be awesome!

They don’t have that mcflurry over here, but I just inhaled a kit kat one :)

I loved Lila when we were picking names but the hubby said no. Also, loved Molly
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19 Courtney @ Don't Blink. Just Run. November 27, 2013 at 4:28 pm

Anyone who gives you the majority of frosting on a cake is meant to be. Awesome!

As for girl names, I am definitely NOT the one to be asking. My wife, however, is obsessed. Like, obsessed obsessed. She reads baby blogs and name boards and gets excited when Social Security releases a new list like it’s Christmas. For real. She could give you a novel of name choices just by you telling her a few small things. It’s insane. Let me know if you want me to have her work up some stuff for you. I’m sure she’d love the challenge.
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20 Laura @ SneakersandSpatulas November 27, 2013 at 6:54 pm

I’m currently getting pumped for Christmas! As soon as Thanksgiving is over I break out all the decorations and we start decorating!!
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21 Alison @ Daily Moves and Grooves November 27, 2013 at 8:01 pm

Currently poppin’ grapes into my mouth like no one’s business.
I love the names Anabel, Alexandra, Kristen, and Teresa!
Also, I appreciate that you acknowledged how holidays can be stressful for some people. I myself had a lot of anxiety over the food last year, but this past year, my mindset has changed tremendously. I am excited to truly enjoy the holidays! Hope you have a joyful, blessed Thanksgiving!
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22 fawn November 28, 2013 at 10:48 am

Great post! And great advice!
Currently reading: ChiRunning and Born To Run.
Currently watching: The Andy Graffiti show-no joke
Currently doing: sitting on my rump thinking about what kind of food we’re going to have..and if I should go for a run this morning in the cold air when I have some chest congestion going on..
Enjoy your day!!
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23 Alyssa @ See This Girl Run November 28, 2013 at 11:15 am

Great tips! Happy Turkey Day!
Hmm girls names….I’ll try list a range: Emma, Jocelyn, Charlotte, Caroline, Claire or Clara, Nicole, Hillary, Audrey, Alyssa (or Alisa) ;)
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24 Emily @SinfulNutrition November 29, 2013 at 7:54 am

I love zapping string cheese in the micro for a few seconds too. I feel like it so much more flavorful!

As far as girl names I like, Sophia and Anna are my two favs. I think Sophie is the cutest little girl name!
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25 Heather @ Heather Getting Fit December 2, 2013 at 2:05 pm

I DID try the praline McFlurry a few weeks ago when I was sick and feeling nostalgic. It was really good! Baby girl names: Norah, Julia, Olivia, Emily, Lindsay, Hannah
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